If you have a loved one who is in denial about an alcohol or substance abuse problem, an intervention may be the first step. Your loved one needs to understand something has to change – either the cycle of abuse, or your allowing the abuse to continue.
Be aware, intervention is actually a confrontation. This confrontation may create more of a problem if you try to do it on your own. Speak with us concerning your problem first… we’ll try to suggest or guide you through the process. Finally if you need our help ‘face to face’ we’ll be there. It’s usually many things that prevent one from getting help when help is necessary.
1. The hope that he or she can do it alone.
2. The embarrassment of being ‘found out’.
3. The shame of wasted money both on the drugs and/or alcohol and now on treatment.
4. The denial that a problem exist and that someone is scheming behind his/her back.
5. The fear that life will change for the worst without the substance to help cope.
We’ve been there, done that. We’ve been on both sides of the addiction problem. We understand and we know that once it’s on the table and the facts are discussed, the fear will go away and life can begin to take a new direction.
Our trained professionals at Bayshore Retreat can assist in breaking down the walls of denial, fear, or shame. We will help you motivate your loved one to change his/her life. We will also be the shoulder for you to lean on in this trying time.
Most important and your best tool in convincing someone to get help is that Bayshore doesn’t have the appearance or atmosphere of a ‘hospital’ or typical ‘cattle call’ drug and alcohol treatment center. This alone can be a factor in someone finally agreeing to get the help he/she secretly desires.
Also, we give them the power to determine their treatment … within reason. Obviously there are certain things that must be done. But we know that with time and proper guidance our clients will want to get all the help that’s available and experience every possible means of treatment. They have choices, they have control. It becomes their program. It works for them because they had a choice in developing it. Bottom line they take “ownership”.
Finally, does intervention work? Sometimes. Some are relieved to be given the opportunity to get his or her life together without having to be the one who requested help. Some view it as a gift … some, however, see it as judgement and resent it. Hiding the knowledge of it and ignoring it isn’t the answer. Once it’s out for discussion he or she needs to be the one to select when and where treatment will be. Again, this goes back to ‘ownership’. The hardest part is the acknowledgement and acceptance of help. At the end of the day – NO – sometimes intervention doesn’t work, at least not immediately. As they say, sometimes one has to hit ‘rock bottom’ (which is different for each) before help is wanted or accepted. Meanwhile, the family or loved one suffers financially and emotionally.
Before having an intervention – do your homework. Check out places that you’d like to suggest. Know that there are many large conglomerates of drug and alcohol treatment centers out there – most of them should have revolving doors for the number of times clients (they call them patients) return. Bayshore Retreat is privately owned, one of a kind, and was developed through experiences with some of these rehabs plus the horror stories from others. It’s home-like environment is a key factor in healing along with the limit of six clients at a time which further enhances the peaceful atmosphere of a home. Dollar for dollar, no one provides more or works harder to achieve success from alcohol and drug addiction.
Given the choice to come to Bayshore Retreat is the best gift you can give someone. It’s not a punishment.
From an intervention client: “My husband surprised me with a visit from my mother, sister and an interventionist. I was appalled. I had no idea that this was going to happen. They even had a place chosen for me to go and I had 30 minutes to pack. I knew about Bayshore Retreat and finally told them I’d consider the other, but my first choice would probably be Bayshore Retreat. When I called the one they wanted me to go to I found it was more like a jail than a place for me. I agreed that I’d do it if I could go to Bayshore. I was traumatized. I don’t recommend intervention in that way. Now, I’m glad it happened and most importantly that I was able to go to Bayshore, but I still have hard feelings and trust issues with my family. I’m just glad they let me choose.” Jessica
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